At St. Luke’s, we make church together. We find life in strength in our relationship with Christ and each other. One of our core values is a commitment to staying in relationship with one another. We seek unity in diversity and believe that our relationships are more important to than our differences. We strive to maintain a safe place where truth can be spoken in love and all voices can be heard. Towards that end we have adopted the following guidelines for communicating with each other.
Guidelines For Communicating With Each Other
- If you have a concern or issue that involves me, please discuss it with me privately.
- If I have a concern or issue that involves you, I will discuss it with you privately.
- If someone has a concern or issue with me and comes to you, send them to me. I will do the same if someone comes to me about you.
- If someone is reluctant to come to me, please offer to accompany him or her to see me. I will do the same for you.
- Please be careful how you interpret me. (I would rather interpret for you if you are unclear of my intentions.) On matters that are unclear, do not feel pressured to interpret my feelings or thoughts. It is easy to misinterpret intentions. I will not interpret you.
- If something is confidential, do not share it with anyone. If you or anyone else comes to me in confidence. I will not share the information with anyone unless a) the person is going to physically harm someone else; b) the person is going to harm herself/himself; c) a child has been physically or sexually abused. I expect the same from you.
- I do not read unsigned letters or notes.
- I do not act on anonymous complaints brought by others.
- I will not manipulate; I will not be manipulated. Please do not let others manipulate you. Please do not let others try to manipulate me through you.
- When in doubt, just say it. The only dumb questions are the one that are not asked.
- When in disagreement, just say it. We cannot resolve issues that are left unspoken. We cannot work together without mutual understanding and trust.
- Our relationships with each other are the most important asset in our community. So, if you have a concern, pray and then, if led, speak up. If I can answer your question without misrepresenting something, someone or breaking a confidence, I will.
~Adapted from The Rules of Respect complied by The Rt. Rev. Greg Rickle, Bishop of the Diocese of Olympia